Welcome to TCCC Marriage and Wedding Ministry
We are so excited for you upcoming wedding, and more importantly, your marriage. We believe in marriage as God created it to be, so we ask all couples to understand the following:
Marriage is a covenantal relationship between one man and one woman.
We ask all couples living together prior to marriage, move apart until their wedding day.
We require premarital mentoring for all couples before they are married in our building or officiated by our ministers.
Welcome! Thank you for considering Third City Christian Church for your wedding day. This is a special day for you and your fiancé and because of this we want to help make it great! We believe the best marriages are built on God’s word. It’s because of this that we abide by what God says is right and good. We do hope you would allow us the opportunity to walk you through God’s design for marriage in our premarital coaching. This coaching happens with a trained married couple who come alongside you with the purpose of teaching and demonstrating what the Bible says about marriage. If there are things about a couple which does not align with the truth of God’s word, we can decline.
What is Marriage?
Marriage is a covenantal relationship between one man and one woman. This relationship between two imperfect, broken people, is one that comes together for the purpose of honoring God through a lifetime of love, forgiveness and grace. Two people become on flesh by leaving their parents and pursuing one another and placing Christ at the center of all things.
We find it very important to define what marriage is as revealed through God’s Word. It is to this end that we desire to help couples come together in this covenantal relationship. We do this by guiding and instructing how two people can pursue God’s desire for their individual lives and their lives together in marriage.
Premarital Coaching Process
When a couple begins this journey toward a covenantal marriage we provide a series of tools that will aid the couple in clarifying what marriage is and what God designed it to be, working through relational compatibility issues, cleaning up any past emotional or spiritual baggage they may be carrying with them and directing them toward a God honoring relationship in several key aspects of marriage.
We accomplish this through the following FOUR steps:
Step 1: SYMBIS Assessment
This is an online assessment each couple will be required to complete. Results will be discussed with your premarital coach.
Step 2: Interview
Each couple will be interviewed for the purpose of placement with a trained couple for premarital coaching. (Approx. 1.5 hours)
Step 3: Premarital Coaching
The couple will meet with their coaches for 8 sessions working through the Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts book & workbook.
Remarried couples will meet with their coaches for 10 sessions working through the Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts book & workbook
Step 4: Wedding Day Planning
The couple will need to meet with both the officiating pastor and the building host (if held at Third City) in order to plan for their special day.
Because this process is fairly extensive, we ask couples to begin this process no less than 4 months prior to their desired wedding date.
What does the Bible say about marriage?
Here is what the Bible says about marriage:
God has a perfect design for marriage (Gen 2:18-24)
Marriage is between one man and one woman (Gen 2:25)
Marriage is based on love, not feelings (Eph 5:21-33)
God’s purpose in marriage is holiness and not just happiness (1 Pt 1:16)
Sexual activity is intended for the context of marriage (Heb 13:4)
Marriage is a lifetime commitment between two imperfect people (Mt. 9:16, Rom 7:23)
We are currently living together or plan to live together before our wedding, will you still marry us?
As a church, we want to help couples see that this design by God for marriage is best, and is worth embracing. It is for this reason that we ask that couples who are living together prior to marriage move apart until their wedding day. While this decision might seem an inconvenience, it should never interrupt our willingness to obey God and His Word. We strongly believe this sacrifice will set you as a couple on a new trajectory to enter marriage with as strong and godly of a foundation as possible as you walk forward in obedience to His design for marriage (Psalm 119:9, Matthew 7:24).
The primary reason for our position is that God wants each married couple to learn and discover what it means to be one flesh (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:6, Ephesians 5:31). Being one flesh can only be properly nurtured in the context of marriage. Of course, there are many ways in which we may create our own substitute for this by living together, engaging in premarital sex, running a household together, etc (Ephesians 2:3). All of these only offer a lesser alternative to God’s intended design for marriage. If Third City can help you brainstorm ideas as you move apart, please let us know. We want to help you in making this decision.
We believe in marriage as God has created it. Obedience to scripture is as vital and foundational to a healthy marriage. It will reflect the goodness and love of our father God to a sinful world. It is our hope that we can come beside you with our premarital coaching to lay a firm foundation for your marriage that will be a blessing for generations.
If you are not willing to part for the duration of time before the wedding, we will still be glad to provide premarital counseling to you, however, we will not officiate the wedding.
This is my second marriage. Will you still perform our wedding?
Divorce is rampant in our culture. Marriages come to an end for all sorts of reasons. In keeping with God’s design, we believe certain things to be true about divorce and remarriage.
Marriage is for a lifetime
Regardless of the cause of divorce, we will counsel couples toward reconciliation
Scripture only gives certain allowances for remarriage:
Adultery on behalf of the former spouse (Mt 5:32, 19:9)
An unbelieving partner left, allowing the believing partner to remarry (1 Cor 7:15)
The previous marriage and divorce occurred before either party came to know Christ (2 Cor 5:17)
The death of a spouse
To ensure proper healing time from a divorce, we will not marry anyone within 18 months of a finalized divorce. This allows enough time for attempts at reconciliation, counseling and healing in order to move on.
It is our aim to show everybody the grace that God has shown us. We want you to know that we are glad to walk beside you to help you understand God’s intended design for marriage. We believe learning His design will benefit your own spiritual growth, but will also have a great impact on your future marriage.
What is the typical cost of a wedding at Third City?
Premarital Costs which include materials for all that is mentioned above is $75.
Officiating fee is $150
Typical Saturday wedding, including all fees is $475-$775 (subject to change)
Am I required to do premarital counseling before my wedding?
The short answer is yes. If you are planning on receiving premarital counseling through another pastor or church, you would be able to have your wedding at TCCC. Without premarital counseling, we will not perform a wedding.
Are there any other guidelines we should be aware of?
No wedding will be performed if a prenuptial agreement has been signed
If you are pregnant, it will be at the minister's discretion whether or not to perform the ceremony
If age is a factor, the couple must have prior consent from each set of parents
No civil ceremonies are allowed
No minister at Third City Christian Church is obligated to perform weddings
First, complete the Premarital Covenant below.
If you are currently cohabitating, please complete the Cohabitation Plan and the Premarital Covenant and return to Third City Christian Church, c/o Marriage Ministry, 4100 W 13th St, Grand Island, NE 68803.
Next, complete the Building/Event Request form by clicking Get Started.